By Peter Becker
A bicycle tour, a car show, a golf tournament, seminars and a rally with candles have a lot in common this month in Pike County. All support awareness of the problem of domestic violence, and the help offered by Safe Haven of Pike County. These events highlight “Paint Pike Purple,” an annual campaign sponsored by Safe Haven. In recognition, on Oct. 3rd the Pike County Commissioners issued a resolution naming October 2012 as Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
Why is it needed?
• Executive Director David A. Beaver states that from July 2011 through June 2012, Safe Haven served 301 people in need- typically involving a mother and her children. There were 45 people given temporary safe shelter. • Every 15 seconds in the United States, a woman is battered. One third of female homicide victims are killed by domestic violence. • While men are sometimes abused, by and large he said women are victimized by men. Beaver said he learned in college that the right questions need to be asked. Rather than question why a woman stays with an abuser, ask why does it happen? Why does a man batter a woman? “It’s because they can,” Beaver said. Men who batter women typically see the woman as “property.” Safe Haven is working on the problem of fining help for the one who causes the abuse. Beaver said they answer is not in therapy, but in “re-educating bad thinking.”
What is coming up?
• Oct. 14, 8 a.m. 1st Annual Tour de Pike County, beginning at Milford Beach. • Oct. 14, 9:30 a.m.- 3:30 p.m. 1st Annual Charity Vehicle Show, at Failte Irish Pub & Steakhouse • Oct. 15, 7;30 a.m. breakfast and 9th Annual Safe Haven Golf Tournament at Lords Valley Country Club • Oct. 21, 11 a.m. - 6 p.m. Body, Mind & Spirit Connection Expo, at Best Western, The Inn at Hunts Landing • Oct. 23, 7-9 p.m. Town Hall Meeting: Teen Dating Violence, at DVHS auditorium • Oct. 24, 6-7 p.m. Candlelight Vigil & March, at Pike County Library, 5:30 p.m. • Oct. 26, 8:30 a.m. Training, “A Rock & a Hard Place: Domestic & Sexual Violence in the LGBTQQ Community, at The Hampton Inn, Matamoras • Oct. 31, 1-4 p.m. Safe Haven Community Open House at Safe Haven offices • Oct. 31, Safe Haven Child Safety “Trick or Treat” for kids & parents, during Milford’s designated trick-or-treating, at Safe Haven offices.
How can you help?
Call Safe Haven’s office number at 296-2827 if you have supplies to help the victim, to see if they are needed. Financial donations (checks) may be sent to Safe Haven of Pike County, Inc., 500 W. Harford St., Milford, PA 18337. Safe Haven of Pike County, Inc. is a non-profit 501(c)(3) organization.
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He told of a woman who put up with abuse because she wanted to be faithful to her vows and thought her predicament was “just the way it was.” Once she found out she did not need to do this, she sought help, left the abusive situation and has made a life for herself. Once a woman feels empowered enough to leave, Beaver said, the abusive man is shaken to his core belief he could control her. Services offered to victims are free. To get help, call Safe Haven’s Emergency Hotline at (570)296-HELP or toll free, 1-877-296-SURV (7878).
How can I just get info?
Call (570)296-2827 or visit online at www.safehavenofpikecounty.org for more information on any of these events or about Safe Haven’s services.